Dear Friends in Jesus Christ…,
A Valentine Story for World Marriage Sunday – (long before on-line dating)
In 1920 a man placed the following ad in a newspaper: “Middle-ranking civil servant, simple, Catholic, 43, immaculate past, from the country, is looking for a good Catholic , pure girl who can cook well, tackle all household chores, with a talent for sewing and homemaking with a view to marriage as soon as possible, fortune desirable but not a precondition.” A woman named Maria Peintner answered the ad. She was 36 years old, a trained cook and the illegitimate daughter of a baker. She did not have a fortune but even so they married four months later. In spite of somewhat advanced years they had three children: two boys and a girl. The youngest received the name of his father, Joseph Ratzinger, better known as Pope Benedict XVI. (It is recently reported that he is mentally sharp but has difficulty walking and needs a walker.) When Benedict became Pope he was shown the “wife-wanted” ad. He smiled and knew that his parents gave a beautiful testimony to married life. In his first encyclical, entitled “God is Love,” he described marriage as the pre-eminent figure of God’s love for us.
A married couple’s guide to building a marriage (Kevin and Katie Kelley):
- Love must continuously be renewed.
- Move from “I understand” to “Help me understand” remind yourself that if you think you already understand how someone feels or what they are trying to say, it is a delusion.
- “With our attitude, with our witness, with our life, we say Jesus is risen!” (Pope Francis).
- The willingness to forgive is a sign of spiritual and emotional maturity….to apologize and to accept an apology.
- The family is not closed in on itself but grows like a cell that lives as much for others as for itself.
God Bless You,